Be more intentional in your marriage this year

No two marriages are the same and no two couples are alike, however everyone has their own unique strength to navigate their marital relationship, but you must also aim to be intentional in all that you do in your personal and marital lives. Being intentional is a personal matter which must start from you before it can extend to others. A good marriage comes with good intentions which allow the couple to prioritise their individual and marital needs in the spirit of love and assurance; but when intentions are unclear, it can become difficult to reap the benefits of your marriage in entirety.

Intentionality is accountability

Many marriages are failing today due to lack of accountability when couples are ill-prepared to take responsibility for their own mistakes. Have you ever stopped for a minute to think that you may be your own problem in your marriage? As tricky as this question may seem, it is important to understand that your marriage is a shared liability and when one person fails to honour their own part of the treaty, it can have adverse effect on the entire process. It is important to have an intentional reflection about yourselves and how your behaviour affects your spouse and the quality of your relationship to mitigate the consequences on your health and happiness.

Intentionality brings clarity

People marry for several reasons and not everyone marries for love. While some marry for mutual benefit, some marry for convenience and fear of the biological clock ticking. It is important to have a clear understanding of your intention before you get married and while you remain in your marriage to help you make sense of your current situation and expectations. Being intentional can help you gain more clarity, increase your purpose for your marriage and uphold a positive mindset. Clarity will help you both understand your individual roles and commitments and make deliberate choices in everybody’s interest.

Intentionality is curiosity

Marriages strives on curiosity of knowing who you are and who your spouse is, and this can only be achieved when you become more deliberate about each other despite the years you have spent together. Intentionality is making deeper connections as you become more comfortable with each other, the truth is that your relationship can gradually start to strain if you stop fostering connection. Be intentional about building a strong friendship that will support your relationship when the issue of life takes the sparks away. It will also help you sustain a clear limitation and purpose for the bond you share as a couple which will be a valuable tool to help you cope with the stress and challenges your marriages present.

Intentionality is presence

Marriage is pleasant when you and your spouse are on the same page and your intentions and aspirations for the future are coordinated. This will help you to become more present and sensitive to each other’s needs. When you become more present in your marriage, you will start to feel valued and experience the love you often took for granted. When you both communicate and react with good intention even in times of disagreement, you will also learn to become more thoughtful and less judgemental with a clear understanding of your purpose and your desires for peace and happiness.